Liberals often make arguments in the abstract, not factoring in real life situations or potential issues.
But one liberal mom found out the hard way, that yes, everyone wants to be open and nice to everyone.
But not everyone is open and nice back.
Kristen Quintrall Lavin runs a blog called, “The Get Real Mom,” in which she exposes the harsh realities of what she calls, “momming.” However, on a recent trip to Disneyland with her young son, Lavin, she was exposed to another harsh reality — the reality of bathroom stalking, which made her question her progressive liberal views on the bathroom debate.
She had been very open to the concept of transgenders in the women’s bathroom, open to ‘everyone being who they want to be’ and supportive.
Until her own experience with the implicit problem. She was at Disneyland with friends and went to the bathroom.
That is when a “very large, burly man in a Lakers Jersey” walked into the bathroom and leaned against the wall. Lavin spoke about seeing about 12 other women and children just staring at the man, wondering what he was doing in the women’s room and that their collective silence is what caused her to tell her story.
Lavin described how the man knew the women wouldn’t say anything about his presence, because they had been “culturally bullied” into silence. The fear of being non-politically correct was more overwhelming than the very real danger of a man casually eyeing them in an intimate environment, when women literally have their pants down.
Was he there innocently, just a ‘transgender person’ washing his hands? Nope.
She wrote that the man eventually started walking past each stall. “You know, the stalls that have 1 inch gaps by all the door hinges so you can most definitely see everyone with their pants around their ankles.” His perversion had been given a license, and every single woman in that restroom felt powerless to challenge him.
What struck her most was the reaction of the women in the bathroom.
“This notion that we’re shamed into silence b/c we might offend someone, has gone too far. There was a man in the bathroom. Not transgender. There was a man who felt entitled to be in the woman restroom, because he knew no one would say anything,” she wrote.
“There were 20-25 people by the time I left, who were scared and uncomfortable by his ominous presence. And the only thing stopping us, was our fear of political correctness and that the media has told us we don’t know what gender is anymore,” Lavin astutely stated. […]
“I need to know it’s ok to tell a man, who looks like a man, to get the f*&% out. Gender just can’t be a feeling,” she wrote. “There has to be science to it.”
This is crazy, women who knew that this was an innately bad and dangerous situation, yet they did nothing to protect themselves because of societal pressure. Not even challenging the man, who was obviously not there to go to the bathroom, what are you doing here?
Let’s carry it one step further. Suppose they had complained and gone to whatever security was there?
Would the security even do anything, or would they have been cowed as well and concerned about potential law suits for doing something?
This is the can of worms that this kind of thought opens.
Reality isn’t based on facts but whatever we are feeling at the moment.
Yes, Virginia, there is a science to it and men don’t belong spying on ladies in the women’s room…