Great parenting. The mother of this 12 year old had her post her punishment online after finding out she had posted pics online that she shouldn’t have (alcohol).
Happy New Year!
No, what would be great parenting is teaching her that underage drinking is illegal and harmful.
Where did it say she didn’t?? did the sign say it? is there a sign somewhere form the mother stating that ONLY the sign was necessary
I think that’s a given.
Yes, I’m sure the mother imposed this punishment without ever mentioning that the underlying behavior was harmful and unacceptable (which is probably why the kid is crying in the photo–she cannot understand why she is being punished, because mom refuses to explain).
Congrats for the last-minute entry for stupidest post of 2013!
I’m sure that kid had NO idea that underage drinking is illegal. Geez, are you a Democrat? No, I guess not. If you were, you’d suggest mom gets arrested for child abuse, and whine about the need for a new government program to teach young people that underage drinking is illegal.
You can teach them that under age drinking is illegal and harmful. I did.. I even said that If i hear that you have I will take you to the police station and turn you in myself.. Guess what..? I did end up taking her.. I found out she drank and let her stew on it for a couple of days and walked into the station and loudly said to the desk clerk when she asked “what can I do for you” I said as I pointed my finger over her head” I would like a police officer to talk to my daughter for underage drinking.. I left her there and came back after they had a nice chat with her. I was on my kids like white on rice, I didn’t work, never put them in daycare, but my daughter still pulled of some antics we taught her were wrong. Kids find a way.
Way to go mom!!
I think what she did was just about perfect. I’m sure if she has responded in this way the child has already been talked to about the use of alcohol and knew not to be drinking it.
NOTHING A GOOD TRIP TO THE WOODSHED CAN’T CURE IN ABOUT 45 SECONDS. . . .
My dad accomplished it in 15 seconds.
Maybe travel time is being included.
Not the green mile, but it has the same dreaded effect.
Awesome, you can see the tears of misery. Let’s hope this is followed up with “Don’t post anything people can edit of you.” And “Social media is a black hole of misery.”
Better parenting would have been not allowing your 12 year old child to have a Facebook account in the first place.
good point well made! These freakin parents giving their elementary school-aged kids i phones and access to whatever on the internet. How ignorant and lazy! I didn’t think face book even allowed kids under, what? 13? But kids try to sneak around it by lying about their birth date. And yes- I do believe it’s the parents’ fault entirely. My kids aren’t even allowed on the computer before I put on restrictions, and they only have access to a few certain websites that have zero chance of venturing to a questionable site.
one word= ridiculous.
Even better parenting than that would be to teach that girl that you don’t drink under age 21, and at that point, knowing what to post and not post regarding booze becomes an issue the parents don’t have to worry about.
couldn’t have said it any better myself. exactly what i was thinking.
I have to say I agree with you. No 12 year old needs a facebook account
U took the words right out of my mouth. These moron parents need to screen the kids and try to determine if they are responsible. Instead, the just unblock the computer and cut the kid loose.
The parent may not have allowed her to have a facebook account. That detail was not disclosed and we wouldn’t want to assume she did. If they lie about their age, underage children can still get an account.
Actually, the mere fact that the parent knew about the picture leads to the logical conclusion that the parent knew and allowed the child to have a FB account.
It’s nice to see mothers being mothers still.
I’m not 100% into the kid-shaming thing. Seems like a lot of potential for negative and unintended consequences.
Yeah..it’s not like those inappropriate pictures the kid posted have potential for negative or unintended consequences. It was the truth and you call it shaming.
Of course the pictures have bad consequences, I never said they didn’t! Read my comment again and again if you have to in order to notice the “100%” part.
Well how about sharing the other 99% with us then. Wishy washy parenting is at the root of so much unhappiness. Harshness with a child is unacceptable, but discipline applied with love is missing from a lot of parenting today. The shaming this young lady may have felt is nothing compared to a life ruined by foolish behavior unchecked.
My phone is being such a pos right now. Probably from kids manhadling it. I’ll get back to this discussion when I’m in front of computer later
Fair enough. But I’ve yet to see a situation where shaming the kid was not used as a teaching tool. I agree an abuser could take it to a bad level – no argument there. But that’s the same for any discipline. You’re talking the exception, not the rule.
Totally talking about the exception. I saw a kid wearing a sandwich board on an intersection, and he was exposed and ridiculed. It totally made me balk at the shaming thing, which I previously thought was awesome. I think like spanking, or any discipline, if it’s a really tough punishment, it needs to be done carefully. But this gal already had a Fb account at 12 and alcohol.
And “kid shAmi g” is a thing now, I didn’t make it up. You think parenting means correcting a wrong with another wrong. See what I did there…putting words in your mouth…yummy.
You’re an intellectual midget.
You think that every parenting dilemma should be solved with ridicule and shame, so I’m not at all surprised that you’re also a troll
I’m confused though. Isn’t any type of punishment shameful to some degree? Is being reprimanded and caught up in something not shameful? Are you suggesting that parents shouldn’t correct their children? You could always come up with an argument on why any type of punishment would be bad, but then you could just as easily make the better argument that kids wouldn’t know right from wrong without it. Parents shouldn’t spank their kids, that’s abuse: Parents shouldn’t shame their kids, that’s ridicule. What, then, is the purpose of a parent? To be a roommate who provides everything for them until they are old enough? I am truly confused on what you would do as a parent if your child was constantly bullying other kids as an example. Just tell em to stop right? lol. That should do it.
I am a very strict parent and resent your leap that I disagree with public shaming, ergo I don’t do any parenting. I see this method as actual lazy parenting, snap and post a picture, then the the public comments take over. To answer your question, Here’s what I do: remove all electronics, no computer, tv, phone etc. if a computer is required for homework, they can use the family computer in the kitchen. Then, physical labor, clean the yard, clean the house, help mom or dad with a project. If you wan a little r and r you can read from an approved stack of classic books. Since you asked. Also, it pretty disappointing to see fellow conservatives act like liberals when somebody disagrees with them, straw men attacks and the like.
Shame can be a very good thing. It teaches us to not do those bad things again. If we feel no remorse, no guilt, (no shame) then we probably believe we did nothing wrong and the conscious becomes seared. The negative consequences of trying to eliminate shame will be people with no empathy and a warped sense of right and wrong.
Let’s not hurt their little feelings by teaching them their actions have accountability. Each generation is growing up more into themselves and believing there should be no consequences for their actions. There will definitely be plenty of negative and unintended consequences unless parents step up and take responsibility for correcting bad behavior before it becomes a life style habit.
Shame is what USED to deter people from crime. A long time ago if you were caught cheating you wore a scarlet letter A. Today people brag about it. (yes, it used to be a crime) A long time ago, if you were caught stealing, you’d be publicly humiliated in the stocks. Now nothing happens unless you’ve been caught more than a few times (how many times did they get away with it). They’re not sorry – just sorry they got caught! We’ve taken away all the deterrents of doing crime because we’re afraid we’re going to hurt their feelings. What about the feelings of the people they’re stealing from? hurting? killing? Seems we’re more concerned about the criminal than the victim. Our society is so twisted.
and yes, I do realize that you’re talking about a child, not a hardened criminal, but guess where they come from? a non-disciplined childhood!
Why not…..The courts say you cannot spank them anymore…….
MOM of the YEAR !!
Good for her. We need to start teaching kids they must take accountability. We are raising disrespectful children. At least she is attempting to remedy that.
The problem here is….”where is dad”…..
What, from the info here, indicates to you that the dad is absent? Is it because (a) a mother should not be disciplining the child, that is the role of the father? Or is it because (b) it is a black family? I am usually the last person to see things as sexist or racist, but honestly stating that is the problem here – with the amount of info we have – sexist or racist is all I can see your comment being.
I am sorry but I don’t see where dad would make a difference. Lets say dad was there and allowed a facebook account as well. You can have 10 dads, “What difference does it make”?
Now, if we had MORE moms like this we would have FEWER Children Knocked up at 14 and actually finishing school. My Applause and Admiration lady. Thanks for standing up for Values.
Facebook and alcohol are products that NEED to be taught how to use. AGE is not the issue, maturity is. Unfortunately, many people over the age of 21 don’t have the maturity to handle either, nor do they have the skills to teach their children.
NO 12 year old needs to use alcohol, no matter how mature they are.
I disagree with you. It IS illegal for minors to consume alcohol in the United States. being a good role model and parent would require us to obey the laws, including the ones we don’t especially like. With that said, most of the world, especially Europe, allows alcohol to be consumed by children. It is another responsibility that is being taught.
Just like other moral issues, it is the misuse of alcohol that gets us into trouble.
I remember when parents didn’t need to go to the Internet to shame their children to aid in raising their kids. Go ahead and laugh at me or call me whatever you like, but think about it first – taking God out of society has bred a wider variety of misbehavior in children and execrable behavior in adults.
I feel compelled to totally agree with this parental decision, cuz if I don’t then I’m racist
Oh please! So all you people that are saying “better parenting” would have been to teach her NOT to drink totally did everything you were supposed to when you were a teenager. I’m sure her mother has taught her right from wrong. Kids have been breaking the rules for ages the only difference is now they have a place to post their bad antics and get caught. Stop being so judgmental!
Hey. let’s be happy that she made her quit facebook. No one is perfect. Good job mom.
FANTASTIC!!!!! GREAT MOM……
When I turned 21, I was finally able to do the things I have been doing since I was 15 legally!
But seriously, I believe that the parents are entirely at fault. I was raised around alcohol, and despite my earlier joke, I was not allowed more than a taste of any of it. As I got older, I was trusted around it, and to a little more to drink each year. I have always been responsible around alcohol, and I owe it all to my parents. They didn’t restrict it entirely, they treated it as a drink to enjoy on a nice evening. After I turned 21, on my birthday, I decided to get drunk on whiskey for the first time. I still regulated my drinking, which takes a lot of self control, and before I drank, I made sure I had water well stocked around me to prevent dehydration, and that I was surrounded by close friends. Got a little sick next morning, but well worth the time spent with loved ones.
There is a lesson in this. Alcohol is not bad, and a law will not make it go away. It is the way you are raised around it. The mother of this girl, while did carry out the punishment adequately, was never open with alcohol around her daughter. It was strictly forbidden, only mommy and daddy can drink this. Touch it, and you get humiliated. Thus, the child knew that because it was against the rules, knew that posting pictures of herself holding booze would make her a “badass” around her peers, not because of the bottle she held, but because of the rule she broke. Parents who are too strict are just as damaging to the child as those who are neglectful.
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